Many people resign themselves to lives that they are not happy with. Some lack drive, while others find themselves on a path that just isn’t right for them. Some feel lost, while others feel like they are stuck in a rut.
Over the Birthright trip and prior to it, I found myself in conversations with new acquaintances and old friends about their direction in life and their overall level of happiness. People have often asked for my advice about a number of things, usually relating to “I wish I was doing X but don’t know how to change things” or “I don’t know what I want, but it’s not this.” I tend to have a two-part response. First, I listen a lot. Then, in a combination of being a friend with advice and being a consultant-type person with an action plan, we sit and figure out what if anything they can change to make things better and get them moving in the “right” direction.
I’ve always been informally doing this (lending an ear along with a push), and it feels great to help people find their place. I enjoy it and think that I do a decent job.
Some people call this life coaching, but I shy away from that title because it sounds SO pretentious. Whenever someone introduces themselves as a life coach, I try to stop myself from judging them but can’t help but think: “Seriously? Okay… What makes you qualified to give other people life advice? Who are you, anyway?” To me, calling oneself a life coach implies that “my life is together and yours is not, but I can help”.
I’m not making any professional decisions and don’t know if i’d enjoy “life coaching” as much if I were being paid for it, but helping people by giving them concrete advice and coaching them toward happiness sounds like a natural fit for me. If only we came up with a better name…
posted by ayo