I was talking to a friend last weekend and referenced “when I look back at my life 60 years from now…”. This comment put me at age 87, which God willing I will reach with health and happiness. However, the conversation made me realize that – assuming a long life – I am almost at my one third mark.
Rather than taking on a “mid-life crisis” twenty years hence, I would rather explore a “1/3 life awakening” where I take stock of what I’ve done with my life and what I still wish to do. I wrote down a long list of skills, behaviors and so forth that I have amassed over the past 27 years and have found to be notable. (I will spare you the list.) And what I found striking is that I have had a tremendous amount of life experiences, friendships, skills, languages, volunteer opportunities, projects and adventures (an “early retirement” to be sure) – but, in my opinion, few serious contributions that leave the world as a whole a better place.
I will give myself the coming year to transition, to enjoy the co-op, to sing with my choir, to launch Jewrotica, to relish in the great outdoors and to continue being a loyal friend to those in my life. But by next fall and by my 1/3 mark, I hope to start focusing on bigger contributions to society – to food issues, to social justice matters – and also to finding a worthy partner and starting a family.
I would like to promise myself:
- Never to stop learning or saying yes to new experiences
- Never to get so caught up in work that a week’s worth of beautiful days go by without being enjoyed
- To prioritize using my skills to help others and make this world a better place
- To prioritize family, raising wonderful children and loving my partner
- To keep life simple and stress-free
- For this year not to be the last adventure of my life
What do you promise yourself?
posted by ayo